A desi heart in Pardes and her educational journey in the U.S.!
For a long time, I have been planning to start writing about my educational journey in the U.S. Well, it is a lot to go through the flashback and describe it in words.
So If I want to talk about a little background of my past educational journey, I started doing my bachelor's when I was in Bangladesh, In a University which was located in my city named Sylhet. But I always wanted to study at North South University which was located in the capital city Dhaka. From choosing my major (bachelor's in business administration) to choosing the University, everything was influenced by someone significant. Can’t name him but Life was dreamlike at that time. Despite I was a science student, I chose to study business.
a) It was a fresh and new subject back then
b) So that I can multitask. I was highly active in extracurricular activities.
c) That someone told me, to challenge myself and try something different. Everyone else is becoming doctors and engineers. (My only sibling is a doctor, so everyone was expecting me to become an engineer) I was never interested.
A lot of people said I can’t transfer from a private university, They told me why do you want to study business, If you are not a doctor or an engineer or a lawyer, you are nothing but a failure. All those affected me mentally and emotionally. The year gap, studying with students who are pure Americans, with all the cultural differences, with all the previous setbacks and I can’t do it, I am not worthy enough attitude made it even harder. I chose business only because I wanted to finish my studies as early as possible. In my last year, I decided to do a double major In business administration and small business development.
One day in class, one of my professors asked me, what’s my favorite food. I said Biriyani. She was at a loss for words and didn’t know what it is. Then I decided to Hide my Desi side and when been asked in my accounting class the same question, I said panini or something American but my professor gave me a look and said! Are you serious?? You don’t like samosas?? I love them! I was in an identity crisis at that time managing so many differences around and adjusting to it.
After all the bitter-sweet experiences, I loved the whole experience. There were more good parts than bad. It was expensive. It was challenging. But It was worth it. In my opinion, however people say you don’t need a degree, get one if it’s not a life-death situation. You’ll feel more accomplished. You can always continue to self educate and learn more. But don’t regret ever that you could have achieved it.
Nevertheless, After working with several companies (businesses), I have finally started my small business. It’s still a lot small. But It feels good that I have something I can call my own.